Photo: Jessi Casara Photography
One of the most biggest trends we spotted in The Knot Real Wedding 2017 study results is the shift away from traditional wedding elements, like the bouquet toss, the garter toss and even the Saturday night wedding. Here, are 8 insights from our latest study that reveal just how far couples are going to break wedding traditions -- and what to do about it!
1. 54% of couples live together for 2+ years before their wedding day. (That number is up from just 44% in 2010!)
2. 90% of couples are NOT having a bride's side or a groom's side at the ceremony.
3. 29% of women and 9% of men have a mixed gender wedding party.
4. 8% of couples don't even having a wedding party. That number has doubled since 2007.
5. More couples are forgoing the Saturday night wedding (down to 68% in 2017 versus 71% in 2012).
6. Less than half of couples are doing the bouquet toss (49% down from 54% in 2016) and only 37% do the garter toss (versus 42% in 2016).
7. Bridal showers are on the decline (79% in 2017 versus 83% in 2008).
8. Couples using the word "traditional" to describe their weddings has fallen 5 percentage points since 2008 (from 19% to 14%).
What To Do About It? Start With These 3 Tips.
1. Ban the word "traditionally" or "normally" from your vocabulary.
Unless it's a custom or tradition that is meaningful to them or their families, chances are good that your couples want nothing to do with traditional wedding elements.
In other words, saying the phrases, "Well, traditionally I like to..." or "Normally our couples..." is the fastest ways to turn off a couple who has been living together for more than two years and wants to plan a wedding that's totally them.
2. Change your pronouns.
This goes for your contracts, your websites, your social channels, your storefront on The Knot and most importantly, the words you say to your couples in person and on the phone.
Be more inclusive by simply removing the gender association with traditional wedding day elements and words. Remember, the data shows that couples are increasingly asking their best male and female friends to stand on both sides of the aisle, so you don't want to make any assumptions about males and females anyway.
Here are a few words to think about changing or finding replacements for:
Bride --> Couple
Bride's Name --> Client Name
Bride & Groom --> Couple, Name, Client, Partner, Fiance
Bridal Suite --> Private Room, Wedding Suite
Bridal party --> Wedding Party, Wedding Crew
Bridesmald/Groomsmen --> Squad, Crew, People, Your Peeps
Bridal Bouquet --> Bouquet, Personal Flowers
Quick note about the suggestions above: Our wedding planner friend and LGBTQIA rights activist Jove Meyer (Jove Meyer Events) provided us with these ideas. Feel free to make them your own!
3. Ask yourself, how can I/we be doing this differently? (Reinvent your work!)
One of the very best parts of the trend away from the traditions is that you as the creative don't have to continue doing exactly the same thing for every couple that comes your way. In fact, you should do the opposite! Couples want to know that their weddings are unique and by no means the same as everyone else's and you get to flex those creative muscles and change up your offerings.
So think about what it is that you offer and then ask yourself, how could we be doing this differently?
A few thought-starters:
The Ceremony: Instead of one center aisle, line up the ceremony chairs in a circle. Or, instead of having the couple walk down the aisle, have their friends walk into the room to meet them.
The Cocktail Hour: Have drinks before the ceremony rather than right after!
The Entertainment: Add in dancers or work with a lighting company to choreograph the set.
The Food: Have a strolling dinner of waiters who shuck oysters or whip up guacamole made-to-order for guests at their tables or during cocktails.
The Reception Setup: Try a new layout in your venue to mix it up. Try long tables in the shape of a square, pull in big oversized couches or chairs in lieu of the typical; make use of a new space; put the cake on a stage.
You get the picture. The more inventive, the better! (Hint: If your couples aren't willing to be as adventurous as you'd like, try a styled shoot and then use those images on your site and storefront to attract couples that are game for it!).
BTW Just in case you didn't know... The Knot Real Weddings Study is the longest running survey of its kind. We survey anywhere between 13,000 and 20,000+ couples who had to have gotten married within the past year. Once our research team has collected the results from the survey, we pore over the data to unpack it and then provide you with actionable takeaways to make it meaningful for your business.
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